The world knew he was afflicted with Alzheimer's
but few knew he suffered ARD!!!
40th President Ronald Wilson Reagan
1911 ~ 2004
The “Gentle” President
A great sadness flooded my heart as I looked
at the face of President Ronald
Reagan in the many news reports across our nation.
Always a "twinkle" in his
eyes and most often one finds him smiling, and even
in the most tense of
situations, he got his point across without raising
his voice or uttering a
derogatory word against another!
I recall this exact persona shining through during a presidential debate
some years back in which he, as a
presidential candidate at the time, answered his question and made
a point that was opposite of the other
candidate, and when he was finished answering the
question, he winked at his opponent and smiled!
Who among men, be they agreed with him or not, could
not like such a
person!
To me, President Reagan presented as a compassionate,
kind, honest and
caring human being who flowed through a public life
with grace and dignity,
and no matter what he faced in life he made it look
easy and uncomplicated.
I, along with many others, experienced deep sadness when it was disclosed
that he was a victim of
“Alzheimer's” Ironically, the mind that gave him
the ability to make a difference for the betterment of mankind, not only
in our country, but countries throughout the world, would be the same mind,
not unlike a thief in the night, would take it all back into it’s own keeping
where it was to become locked and forever lost to himself, and if that
wasn’t enough to inflict on him, “Alzheimer's” would also take for
itself all that he would have undoubtedly contributed to others over the
many years he continued to walk this earth!
As with most things in life, even in the saddest of things, if
one looks deep enough, they will find that blessings exist. I just got
to say that in the case of President Reagan being afflicted with “Alzheimer's,”
and all the
indignities it brings to it’s victims, but what it could not take away
was the person he was and the things he gave to others, as even in his
loss of memories, those same memories remained with those who took his
hand and walked with him through his last days!! The many things he did
when he was President, continue to impact the world for the better, and
will forever remain etched in the history of the world!
“Remembrance is a form of meeting”
“Forgetting is a form of freedom.”
Kahlil Gibran
Today we have heard for the first time, that this gentle man
and his family were also victims of “Adhesion Related Disorder” and those
of us who are afflicted with it can all of a sudden relate to this man!
Though I do not know if he suffered pain and other symptoms, I suspect
that he did as why else would he have presented for surgeries as stated
in this news brief of today,
“including surgeries to eliminate scar tissue caused by
the 1985.”
I suspect he suffered as most of us suffer and I am saddened that
even the President of the “United States of America” was kept ignorant
of his medical condition and was the recipient of surgeries that
would offer him little to no resolutions to his suffering
with adhesions, but probably made it worse!
When I first heard of President Reagan having suffered ARD, my immediate
thought was this,
“Dam-it, why do we hear of it only after they are dead!”
Immediate anger, shock and then sadness, almost ashamed for that thought,
yet I find myself going back to being angry at him for not telling the
world, for not telling about “our” LITTLE known affliction along
with one that IS well known!
If only he and his family had known about ARD, I believe that
they would have made it public! If that would have been, many of
us would have been spared many of the humiliating medical appointments
and interactions we had to endure, maybe we would not have had to fight
so hard to be heard, maybe we would have been believed by others, maybe
we would have believed in ourselves, maybe we would have been treated with
respect, and maybe effectively! Always maybes, but then again, as with
everything that surrounds the “secret” world of ARD, why would our President
and his family be treated any differently then any one of us!
The facts speak for themselves…
How many of us went to the world-renowned, “ Mayo Clinics” only
to find out that they were no more honest or educated about ARD, not or
mention skilled enough to help the victims of it?
How many of us had surgery time and again because we were either
told it would resolve our pain and symptoms?
How many of us agreed to a surgery because we were looking for any
semblance of relief in our suffering even though we knew it would eventually
make us worse?
How many of us tried time again to hide our suffering from our friends
and family simply because we really thought we were hypochondriacs when
diagnostic tests showed nothing was causing our symptoms?
How many of us really were convinced that adhesion were not the cause
of our pain and certain symptoms we presented with?
How many of us endured tremendous suffering because we had no
one or no were to turn to for help because it was those who were supposed
to help us telling us that we had no reasons for our complaints?
How many of us did reach out for help, time and again, only to be accused
of wanting attention, pain pills and an excuse for not working or doing
things “ normal” people did?
This type of list could go on and on as we have all lived them at
one time or another!
If we take a moment to reflect on those atrocities, we will find
that the majority of insults and ineffective interventions came from medical
care providers, and some who presented with“impressive” titles and /or
positions at national levels, no less!
Is it a wonder then that even the President of our country and his
family, as the victims of ARD, were treated no differently then you and
I were?
Maybe there is a reason his surgeries for “scar” tissue not
being dealt with in a more public way!
Unless someone could convince me that he felt any different then
anyone of us feel at times when trying to deal with our symptoms of ARD,
I am of the opinion, 100%, that President Ronald Reagan with-held a great
deal of his suffering from his wife, children and of course, friends and
associates in all walks of his life! I am also of the opinion that because
of his status in our country, he and his family assumed that they were
securing the highest quality medical intervention administered in this
country!
“You Are Not Alone”
But he was!
I am also of the opinion that had he was NOT told of the
ramifications of re-operations for adhesions, nor did he ever once have
the opportunity to sit down at a computer and type in the words, “scar
tissue” or “adhesions” such as we all have, thus because of who he was,
it is highly probable that he was alone in his suffering with no where
or no one to turn to for information, education, answers and as important,
support!
I thought his affliction of “Alzheimer's” was terribly sad, but
when I found out today that he suffered ARD, I was sickened at the thought
that he might have had pain and no way to express it to anyone, and how
his family would have tried to console him and get him help for symptoms
based on his reaction to them…and all I can think to console my heartbreak,
is that at the very least, was given pain medication so he could secure
some semblance of peace within his suffering!
I am also thinking that his death was more merciful then anyone
could imagine, anyone who doesn’t suffer ARD that is, as we all know that,
“There are things worse then death!"
May He Rest In Peace
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